“Now and then I think of all the times you screwed me over
But had me believing it was always something that I’d done” “You can get addicted to a certain kind of sadness
Like resignation to the end, always the end”

Gotye Feat. Kimbra Cover by Walk Off the Earth
“Somebody That I Used to Know”

Oh and fun Daisyland trivia – I introduced my blog to Gotye with this picture below back in August of 2009..

And in this incredibly well written, detailed and thought provoking blog in which, just as the title explains, I truly do not have anything to say. “Pics of the Day – not much else to say”

The song I had on repeat that day?  ”My Heart’s a Mess” by Gotye

Or what about the time I said I was going to take a self-portrait every single day for a year but ended up only doing it for about 90 days?  Yeah… umm… about that.

In other news, I was super pleased and excited to learn that the kids I teach in church adore me.  YAY!  Happy days!

BOOM!

OOORRRR maybe it’s not quite like that.  It’s more like this

BBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM!!!!!!!

What??  Changing long time personal habits can be kind of a slow process!!!!

hahahaha.  But what if all of those fears you had before – you know – the ones that made you doubt what he said? the ones that made you scared to risk your heart? well, what if you were wrong?

What does this all mean?  I’m not sure either.  I only know that:

 ”No distance of place or lapse of time can lessen the friendship of those who are thoroughly persuaded of each other’s worth.” – Robert Southey

Happy New Year!  Has it really been a year?  So much has happened!!! Yet we pick up, almost, as if nothing has… and here we are – same holiday, same time, same place.  We laugh.  Is it possible?

Yes.

I couldn’t wait another day.

Bless us all, who gather here
The loving family I hold dear
No place on earth, compares with home
And every path will bring me back from where I roam.

Bless us all, that as we live
We always comfort and forgive
We have so much that we can share
With those in need, we see around us everywhere

Let us always love each other, Lead us to the light
Let us hear the voice of reason, singing in the night
Let us run from anger and catch us when we fall
Teach us in our dreams and please, yes please
Bless us one and all

Bless us all with playful years
With noisy games and joyful tears
We reach for you and we stand tall
And in our prayers and dreams
We ask you, bless us all

We reach for you and we stand tall
And in our prayers and dreams we ask you
Bless us all”  ~The Muppets Christmas Carol

I wish you all a very merry and happy holiday season!!

AAANNNDDD I seriously watch WAY too much ghost whisperer because I thought “Katy Perry has a ghost!!!! Better call Melinda Gordon STAT!” when I saw the end of this video.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA! Ok so maybe I didn’t really think THAT exactly. but I DID think GHOST WHISPERER when he went to touch her hand.

I heart me some tourist for shizzle.   I heart me that song too. *happy sigh*  Did anyone else fall in love with this plot and movie? And has anyone else gone back to an old cell phone record/bill in order to find a number they deleted so that they could UN-delete it?

WHAT?? Who said that I did that? You must be craaaazzeee. I meant like “anyone else” as in like anyone besides the any ONE person who MIGHT have done that and who probably ONLY did that because the owner of said number deleted his OR her facebook account but who definitely wasn’t me – umm – yeah. haha. Because ME, MYSELF AND I?? I only went back to the cell phone record to CONFIRM that the number sitting in the “trash” of my verizon wireless back-up assistant was the number I really WAS looking for. haha. (which btw – I didn’t even KNOW Verizon kept my trashed numbers until tonight!!! can I get another “craaaaazzeeeee” please? cuz that is CRAAAAAAAZZEEEE! good news.) hahahaha!!!!

So yeah… It felt pretty stalkerish to go back and look up a number in the past. But it’s late – I’m tired – I’m feeling a touch loopy and yeah – YAY – yeah – I did what had to be du-du-du-done. Pound Pound PEACE!

“We do not believe in ourselves until someone reveals that deep inside us something is valuable, worth listening to, worthy of our trust, sacred to our touch. Once we believe in ourselves we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight or any experience that reveals the human spirit.” – E. E. Cummings

He did that for me.

It wouldn’t take a rocket scientist to realize J-doo-da and I broke up.  Who’s J-doo-da?  Oh, you know, just the guy that I was dating this past year. My big mistake AND the inspiration for my new break-up playlist.  YAY!!!

haha!!

“There’s a side of you that I never knew .. and the things you said they were never true.”

AAANNNDDD let’s be honest, “I kind of always knew I’d end up your ex-girlfriend.” though I DO wonder… ”Why’d you have to go and pick me? When you KNEW that we were different COMPLETELY!! … but I should have thought about that before we kissed..” haha!  Oh Gwen – you rock.

And we ALL know that “I can’t stand the restrictions. I find myself trying to change you, if you were meant to be my lover I wouldn’t have to…” *gasp!*

“Easy come, Easy go, that’s just how you live, take take take it all but you never give. Should have known you were trouble from the first kiss… ”

Wait a minute – Bruno Mars did you read my journal??

“Black Black, Black and Blue, beat me til I’m numb. Tell the devil I say “Hey” when you get back from where you’re from… ”

“There’s a fire starting in my heart, Reaching a fever pitch, it’s bringing me out of the dark, FINALLY I can see you crystal clear, Go ahead and sell me out and I’ll lay your shit bare, See how I’ll leave with every piece of you, Don’t underestimate the things that I will do.  … The scars of your love remind me of us, they keep me thinking that we almost had it all. You had my heart and soul inside of your hands but you played it to the beat.”

*sigh* I love music!!!!  AAANNNDDD being FREE has given me a renewed sense of self, a liberating freedom, tons of Holiday candy and an exquisitely SMACKED Terry’s DARK Chocolate orange.  Hip hip hooray!

Oh and I also found the courage and desire to get back on track with ME.

ME!!!!!

I’ve missed me.  ”I don’t know what I’ve done, or if I like what I’ve begun.  But something told me to run and honey, you know me, it’s ALL or NONE.  There were little voices whispering that I should go and this should end… cuz I don’t know who I am without you, but all I know is that I should…”

I’m FREE!!! I can be MYSELF. I won’t get texts telling me to delete my FB statuses or please take down pictures anymore. I won’t have someone adjusting the sleeves on my shirt to make sure I’m “proper and modest” and I can laugh at what I want, smile at whomever I want, and be the fun flirtatious girl I used to be.

And yes – I told him I wish I could erase him from my memory. But that was a touch dramatic. haha!

It’s still going to take some time … I’ve been in a slump for months (long before we broke up) and I need to reignite my passion. I need to stop this pattern of behavior. The song above “scar” – oh it’s so me. And this blog is part of my healing process. YAY!  I’m getting closer to being ME again every single day. I have AMAZING friends!!! And I’m meeting so many great people!!

“He left a card and a bar of soap with a scrubbing brush next to a note, That said “use these down to your bones”.
And before I knew I had shiny skin and it felt easy being clean like him, I thought “this one knows better than I do”

A triangle trying to squeeze through a circle…
He tried to cut me so I’d fit”

Sure, “My mind has eff-ed me over more times than any guy could ever know…” and “Maybe I should give up giving …” and “I’m sorry to whichever man should meet my sorry state, watch my steady lonesome gate and be aware…” BUT I will recover.

And I will look forward to being the happy carefree woman I once was, again, very soon. I have hope. And I’m excited to be ME again.

“I always take the high road and I always bite my tongue and say you’re right.  I never say just what I think for fear that you can’t handle it.  But tonight?  I can’t hold back, I’m breaking out of the gates and screaming, ‘Give me back my voice again! Give me back my soul!  Give me back my love again, I want to give it to someone else.”  I will not be calm, I won’t be nice.  Now all that time I wasted is time I’m making up – and it’s mine.  I’m not so scared of what I want, there’s a freedom in just being me. Sick of trying to make it easy. I’m on my own and I’m finally breathing. ‘Give me back my voice again! Give me back my soul!  Give me back my love again, I want to give it to someone else.”

Something to consider:

Something for fun:

Something to ponder:

What might be holding you back from emotional or mental freedom?

Something else for fun – can you read it?

Something to remember:

 Of course, in order to have faith in the first place you have to relinquish your some of your fears… but I still appreciate this because it’s easy to lose faith as we let those fears creep back in… This reminds us to keep a healthy check on those fears.

Have a great day!!!  :)

But since I don’t really want to VLOG and BlaVlaLogging is something I made up (in my head) let’s just all be aware that everything I’m writing tonight should be read LIKE it’s pepped up on caffeine but it ISN’T because this high?  It’s au naturale.

hahahaha.  I smile every time I see that picture.  That’s Duchess, my dog.  She pretty much loves the park. SPEAKING OF WHICH!!  The PARK is a GREAT distraction from dwelling on stuff you can’t change.

So is looking at that picture.  In fact, maybe you should look at it again.

K cool – we have that settled now.  Let’s dive right back into Distraction Techniques.

No – wait. Let’s do a quick recap.  WHY are we talking about this?  Because sometimes we get overwhelmed with stress and when THAT happens?  We usually cope with stress by using self-defeating behaviors.  Blog One was Common but Self-Defeating Stress Coping Mechanisms.  Then we discussed Radical Acceptance in Blog Two and explained that the FIRST tool in fighting stress is acceptance.  Once we get the gist of acceptance we can start distracting – which brings us to today.  MAD DISTRACTION SKILLZ.  YAY!

Mad Distraction Skillz #1 – Stop being self-centered!

I don’t know that much needs to be said about this one.  If you serve others and put others first – you won’t have time to dwell on your own stress.  It is kinda that simple.  BUT let’s delve a little deeper.

• Do Service
• People Watch  (observe as many details as possible so you have no time to think of anything else.  AND if you’re like my brother … you might sneak a camera phone pic of some fashion faux pas awesomeness and send it to a friend – you’ll both laugh and hopefully feel a little guilty for being kind of mean – but still laugh.)  Or you could be like the people of “People of Walmart” and take pics like the one below.  Aaaannnnddddd Please Bless I don’t go to Hades for posting this. YAY!

• Go on a quest to take a GREAT picture of a Fanny Pack!!!  Double points if you get TWO fanny packs in one pic and TRIPLE points if you manage to get YOURSELF in the pic with a fanny pack.  OH!!!! And one billion ga-jallion points if you email the picture to moi.  :)

(please extra please bless I don’t get sent to H.E.double hockey sticks for these.)

• Think of someone you care about.
• Keep pictures of people you care about around where you can see them and then LOOK at them when you’re SpIraLinG.

Mad Distraction Skillz #2 – Change your thoughts!!

This one is SOOOOoooooOOOO much easier said than done.  But being AWARE of your thoughts and AWARE that you CAN change them gives you power.

YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS

This doesn’t mean you can change the way you feel!!!  This also doesn’t mean you are going to forget.  We can’t always CONTROL our thoughts.  It’s not even worth trying.  But we can DIRECT and CHANGE our thoughts.  We can distract ourselves.  

This concept is SO important that we will have a blog JUST on thought patterns.  I’ve read a few books that focus on this specifically and it’s SO WORTH giving it some extra attention.  But for NOW?  When you feel yourself thinking about things that can’t be changed – TELL YOURSELF NO.  Be aware.  Think of something else … for example:

• Remember things that were fun.  Maybe a specific event where you couldn’t stop smiling.  Remember that feeling.  Remember what made you laugh.  Remember as many details as you possibly can. (don’t get side tracked remembering that things might not be as good NOW as they were THEN.)
• Find something lovely outside and FOCUS on it.  Look at every detail  BE CURIOUS.
• IMAGINE!  FANTASIZE!  You’re a superhero – who are you going to save?  What has your super villain arch enemy done THIS time?
• OR imagine you just won the lotto – what do you buy first?
• Pray
• Do something on the Really Long List of Things To Do
• Tell yourself No again – and then remember something happy – remember the FEELING
• Watch this video because it’s SO FUNNY

Create a distraction plan.

Mad Distraction Skillz #3: Create a Distraction Plan

Is there something on your plate or in your life that overwhelms you?  Be aware of it.  Decide NOW that the next time you feel yourself dwelling or spiraling because of this issue that you WILL do _________.  It doesn’t matter which technique you try.  Just pick one and try it!!  

Mad Distraction Skillz #4: LEAVE

Don’t run away from your problems but be aware when walking away from the situation until you can clear your head might be best.  If the situation involves another person, relationship guides suggest you tell the person you are going to clear your head for X amount of minutes and give them a time frame for when you will come back and discuss things.

Mad Distraction Skillz #5: Whistle While You Work

When life gets overwhelming, sometimes we let daily tasks fall behind.  It’s not that we WANT our sink to fill up with dishes, or to look in the mirror and realize it’s been WAY too long since our last eyebrow wax – but sometimes it happens.  Crossing off tasks from your to do list is AWESOME.  And cleaning can be cathartic.  AND sometimes if you attack dirt and grime and come out the WINNER?  It feels GREAT!

• Clean your car
• Pull weeds
• Vacuum
• Clean the kitchen
• Wash blinds
• Reorganize a shelf (any shelf)
• Reorganize anything
• Rearrange furniture
• Get rid of old stuff
• Color coordinate your closet
• SCRUB the bathroom til it SpArKleS
• Clean the garage
• Sweep
• Mop
• Get the haircut/wax/manicure you need
• Treat yourself to a massage
• Wash your car
• Mow the lawn
• LAUNDRY
• Homework?
• Extra assignment from work?
• Clean your jewelry/watches/shoes
• Cook – then CLEAN up afterwards
• Pay that stack of bills
• Respond to emails
• EXERCISE
• Take your dogs to the park because you’ve promised them every single day that you’d go and every single day you don’t end up going… wait… haha – you don’t have to do that one.  That one was just for me.

Mad Distraction Skills #6: Count Dracula

Ok so SOME of the ideas in this blog come straight from my book – and nooooo not most of them – just some of them.  And Counting?  That is DEFINITELY one of the book’s suggestions.  BBBUUUUTTTT maybe it works!  If it sounds dumb?  Try watching this youtube video first. hahahahaha.  And maybe remember while you watch it that it’s SO easy to misinterpret people and maybe a recent conversation that upset you deserves another look.  Did you give the person the benefit of the doubt?  Did you ask them to clarify?  Did you repeat what you “heard” back to them?  If not – maybe you should.  (and yes THAT stuff was all me – not the book.)  haha – I amuse myself.

Back to the “counting” suggestion.

• Count your breaths – breathe slowly.
• Count anything.  The cars passing by, the people you see, how many letter Ts are in this blog…
• Count in increments of 7.  Go up or down the number line.

CREATE A DISTRACTION PLAN

What are you willing to try?  Decide now and do it next time.  Refer back to the HUMONGOUS list of things to do if you want more ideas.

I saw a WHOLE lot of words all at once.  But they’re all pretty similar.  I pulled this up on my phone and the first word I saw?  Serve.  Then dramatic, stubborn and courageous.  (but honestly I don’t think many people would call me a stubborn person but it IS a trait I struggle with in other people and it doesn’t surprise me that it jumped off the page.)  When I pulled it up on my computer the first I saw were lovely, passionate, dramatic and thoughtful.  hahahaha.  BUT since I think it takes passion to be courageous (or stubborn) and being thoughtful usually means service – I’d say either way the list was fairly accurate.

But sometimes stress causes us to be overwhelmed with emotion. *frowny face emoticon*  

We are overwhelmed by stress.  We react poorly.  Our emotions course through our veins, race through our minds, and/or sink into an uncomfortable pit in our stomachs and we, in a sense, lose control.  Logic flies out the window. We shut-down.  We bite back.  We avoid.  We cry.  We act in spite: spiting ourselves, our loved ones, our feelings.  Our emotions take over.  We spiral.

In my last post, we discussed Common but Self-Defeating Coping Mechanisms for Stress and detailed the negative consequences to each mechanism.   And let’s be honest – most of us have used more than one of those coping strategies on the list.  That’s why I labeled them “common”.

Ok – so, sure – it’s great to acknowledge these reactions are self-defeating… and even better to acknowledge you use them. (or maybe vice versa)  But so what?  When you’re living in that moment you don’t care!!   If you DID, you wouldn’t be acting that way.  *duh*

So what can you do?  How do we fight back if, in a way, we’ve already lost control?

Distraction.

You need to distract yourself so that you can snap out of it and come back to the situation/problem/stress with a refreshed and in-control mind. *Big SMILE!* Distraction skills help you temporarily stop thinking about your stress, they help you prevent your emotions from spiraling farther and they give you time to find an appropriate reaction for your stress. *Even BIGGER Smile*

Soooo…..Make the choice NOW, that you WILL choose to distract yourself the next time you find yourself in a self-defeating reaction to stress. YAY!  Tell yourself NOW that no matter how convincing your irrational justifications for your behavior are, the next time you find yourself coping with stress in a self-defeating way, you WILL, even though you won’t want to, try a distracting technique.  (which btw – will be covered more in the next post)

Have you done it yet?  Have you made the choice?

No?  ok – well… seriously…

Do it.  *warrior face emoticon*

haha.  Just teasing.  But for REAL?  Make the decision.  NOW.  Because if you don’t do it NOW – you probably will find yourself wishing you had.

(and I wonder why my boyfriend teases me about being bossy *slanted smile emoticon*)

****IMPORTANT NOTE: Please do not confuse distracting yourself with avoidance.  Distracting yourself when your emotions are overwhelming?  Good.  Avoiding?  BAD.  The difference? “When you avoid a distressing situation you choose not to deal with it.  But when you distract yourself from a distressing situation, you still intend to deal with it in the future, when your emotions have calmed down.”*****

Ok – so we understand the importance of and the “why should we?” for distraction… BUT

Before we use distracting skills we need Radical Acceptance 

Distracting yourself will never work unless you learn “Radical Acceptance”.  Radical Acceptance is accepting life for what it is – judgment free.  If you can’t accept that life IS and cannot be controlled, you are probably a control freak.  What?  You probably are!

Let’s be real.  Life cannot be controlled.  Bad things happen.  Stress happens.  And wishing something didn’t happen is ultimately a waste of your time.  When you are upset that something happened you miss the point that it DID happen and now you need to deal with it.

Let’s think about this for a second.  Do you REALLY think that being upset and angry, or wishing something didn’t happen will change the outcome of something that has already happened? Or going back to our list of Common but Self-Defeating Coping Mechanisms for Stress - will ANY of these reactions CHANGE the outcome of what lead to your stress?

If you said “yes” – you are wrong. *Playful winky emoticon*  Each of those coping mechanisms ultimately paralyze you.  You cannot move forward and change the situation when you are busy engaging in self-defeating behaviors.  You might not be able to prevent feeling angry, upset, critical and judgmental, but you can accept that dwelling on those feelings won’t help.

Feel it, acknowledge it, accept it, move forward.

Trying to fight a moment in time, that has already happened, only leads to poor reactions and more stress.

Now, of course, this doesn’t mean you have to condone or agree with bad behavior in other people.  Accepting life for what it is only encourages you to not get angry about what has already happened and to not waste time trying to point the finger.  Blame, anger and dwelling will never help!  If a situation needs to be changed – change it!! but don’t dwell on who is to blame or get caught up in being disappointed in yourself for allowing the situation to happen.

Feel it, acknowledge it, accept it, move forward.

Back to Distraction

We’re going to talk more about Radical Acceptance in future blog posts but for now … let’s get back to Distraction as a coping mechanism for stress.

Developing distraction skills are more involved than I realized at first.  It’s going to take more than one post to get through them. *sorry!!*  BUT since I promised you some distracting ideas in THIS post, I’ve included pages 15-16 from “The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook” by McKay, Wood and Brantley for you (Click the link for a pdf).  It’s called “The Big List of Pleasurable Activities” and they claim it contains a list of over 100 ideas of things to do.  But I think listing “exercise” and then 14 different ways to exercise shouldn’t be counted as 15 things to do so I edited the list, added a few of my own ideas and included my amended version at the bottom of this post.  Please consider doing one of these things when you start feeling yourself reacting poorly or not caring that you are upset.  YAY!!!!

(YAY that there is a list – NOT yay that you are reacting poorly)

But WAIT!  There really is more!

If looking at the list makes you think “This will never work” – bear with me ok? *hopeful smiley emoticon*  I realize this is just a LONG list of things to do.  But the fact is, doing ANYTHING to change the pace a little should help you refocus and refresh your mind.  YAY!

PLUS – we haven’t gotten to the distraction SKILLS yet!  That will be next time. My next blog will cover in-depth ideas for distracting your thoughts and I’ll also go over the book’s suggestions for relaxing and fighting anxiety.

So …

to be continued!

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“The Big List of Pleasurable Activities” or as I like to call it, the “Things to do when you can’t think of anything else to do list” (edited by me)

1. Talk to a friend
1. Call
2. Text
3. IM
4. Skype
5. In person
1. Meet up somewhere
2. Invite your friend over
3. Go to your friend’s
2. Organize a party
3. Exercise
1. Lift weights
2. Do yoga, tai chi, or Pilates, or take classes to learn
3. Stretch
4. Jog
5. Swim
4. Go outside
1. Take a walk, somewhere peaceful
2. Watch the clouds
3. Hike
4. Ride a bike
5. Go to a local playground and play
6. Any outdoor sports
7. Play with your pet or borrow a pet
8. Bird watch
9. People watch
10. Sit outside – it doesn’t really matter what you do – just go outside!!
5. Play a game (by yourself or with someone)
1. Solitaire
2. Basketball
3. Mini Golf
4. Bowling
5. Billiards
6. Video Games
7. Flag football
8. Any game
6. Download new apps for your phone
7. Subscribe to a word of the day email and read them
8. Get a massage
9. Go for a drive
10. Ride public transportation
11. Plan a vacation
12. Take a nap
13. Eat (Hmm… I’m going to add PLEASE be careful you’re not eating emotionally)
1. Try a new healthy snack
2. Cook your favorite meal
3. Bake your favorite treat
4. Surprise someone with a treat
5. Have a dinner party
6. Have friends over to help you prepare a meal
7. Cook or bake something new
8. Teach/mentor someone younger to cook to bake
9. Take a cooking class
10. Go get your favorite non-alcoholic beverage
11. Make a fruit salad bouquet (the decorative type)
12. Invent a new smoothie combination
13. Make hamburger cupcakes
14. Watch a cooking show – make one of the recipes
14. Play with a pet or borrow a pet
1. Give the pet a bath
2. Teach a dog a new trick
15. Find something FUNNY
1. Watch a movie
2. Youtube
3. Comics
4. Blogs
5. TV
6. Websites
7. lolcats.com
16. Go to a movie
17. Watch your favorite TV show
18. Listen to the radio
19. Go to a sporting event
20. Google Inspirational Quotes
21. Start a blog or website
22. Sell something online
23. Do a puzzle
24. Run errands you’ve been meaning to do
25. Get a haircut
26. Go to a spa
27. Do a face mask
28. Look up local community events and go to one
29. Volunteer for a non-profit group or political campaign
30. Go to a library
31. Go to a bookstore and read
32. Visit a museum or art gallery
33. Go to a ballet or opera
34. Go to a play/broadway
35. Get dolled up
36. DANCE
37. Pray
38. Meditate
39. Go to a church
40. Write a letter to a Higher Power
41. Call a family member
42. Mentor/call/plan a play date with a niece, nephew or younger cousin
43. Learn a new language
44. Sing or learn how to
45. Play a musical instrument (or learn)
46. Write a song
47. Memorize lines from a favorite movie, book, play or song
48. Make a movie/video
49. Take photos
50. Edit photos
51. Write a speech
52. Participate in a local theater group
53. Sing in a choir
54. Join a club
55. Plant a garden
56. Knit, crochet, sew – or learn to
57. Make a scrapbook
58. Join pinterest
59. Paint your nails
60. Color your hair
61. Take a bubble bath or shower
62. Work on a car
63. Housework
64. Take a community education class
65. Read
66. Buy a magazine
67. Write a letter to a friend or family member
68. Make a list of things you like about yourself
69. Draw or write things you like about body
70. Write a poem, story, movie etc.
71. Write in a journal
72. Write a love letter
73. Write a loving letter to yourself to save for your next bad day
74. Make a list of things you are good at
75. Draw
76. Paint
77. Snuggle with someone you care about
78. Make a list of people you admire or want to be like – fictional, historical or someone you know.  Describe what you like about them.
79. Write a biography or about crazy events in your life
80. Make a bucket list
81. Write a letter to someone who has enriched your life and explain why (you don’t need to send the letter)
82. Mail holiday cards to those you care about for random holidays
83. Create your own list of ‘pleasurable activities’
84. Make a 101 in 1001 list
85. Take a personality quiz